2008 Starts With Death

Second day of 2008, I woke up at 7.30 to hear the news about a person we know died this morning. He committed suicide at dawn.

It was a difficult to comprehend. Hard to swallow. Not only because the deceased was known to be a very cool, calm, polite person who was in the best shape of his age. But also because no one believed he could take such an extreme way to solve whatever problem(s) he was facing. Since there was no signs shown, no obvious clue, and on the surface everything was great (marriage, kids, financial, health, work, etc), there were so many theories flying around, trying to answer the “Whys“. The family was left in a state of shock, grief, anger, and guilt, with so many “what ifs” and “what have I done“. Especially because when the decision was made, there was only 1 hour window to make it happen.

Life is weird. Strange. Funny. We never know what is ahead us. We never know what is inside us….

Later today I stumbled upon a good posting and think it’s worth to quote:

A Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete…

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

George Carlin



  1. Anita, it is very sad indeed but sometimes people who do commit suicide believe that is the only solution to their unbearable situation. A few months ago, a young mom of 4 children in Malang, East Java, killed her 4 kids and committed suicide by drinking the same poison that she gave to her children. She even taped the whole process by a video-cellphone, left a letter which said how sorry she was for her doing and hope she and the kids would reunited with her husband in the heaven.
    I think suicide is preventable, it is not an instant action, but we are often unaware of those warning signs.

  2. I’ve read that in England, there are number of people who commit suicide on Jan 1st. And the number is increasing every year.

    Probably they just wanna start a new year with something eternal.. i don’t know.

  3. I’ve read that in England, there are number of people who commit suicide on Jan 1st. And the number is increasing every year.

    Probably they just wanna start a new year with something eternal, I dunno… *shrug

  4. Andie Summerkiss says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Death is a sad thing, but of course it is most shocking when intentionally done by someone.

  5. Elyani’s comment is right; sometimes our eyes are blindfolded to see those warning signs. Suicide is an easy solution for them who are included in short-minded person criteria.


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