Comments on: Certain Friendships Don't Last Forever (2)

By: Finally Woken

Finally Woken — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 00:13:01 +0000

Hi Lala, reading your comment makes me think that you do have a complicated relationship with your friend. Looks like you love her but can’t stand her. I wonder though, if it’s because you have too much expectation from her, or because you two have too similar characters they clash all the time? Sometimes when it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be. When you ‘adjust’ your expectation, I am sure you won’t be hurt as much.

By: I Don't Know What To Do

I Don't Know What To Do — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 08:33:36 +0000

Hi, I am also in a very complicated friendship. I need someone to talk to, but it isn’t easy to contact someone who can be trusted. Basically, what my friend does is to shun me when she’s moody and vent her anger on me. It’s very frustrating since I’ve been her friend for many years. We are very dependent on each other but sometimes she seems far away. Other friends also regard the two of us to be best friends, but the truth is, I don’t think I want to be best friends with her. I would have to adapt to her mood swings and all that nonsense. Plus, she also tries to be a wet blanket and fun and happy events. She tells jokes and expects others to laugh when it isn’t funny.
Sort of sad.
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Finally-Woken » Blog Archive » 7 Links Challenge — Fri, 29 Oct 2010 06:50:52 +0000

[...] I remember it vividly. My blog started because of this post, because of this person. Maybe I should thank her after all, for being such an inspiration…. The post is about my (ex) best co-worker who had an affair with a married man who was also a vendor for my project. It’s a messy love affair, but strangely I ended up losing her as my friend, not the other way around. Three years later I bumped into her and her lover again, and the incident inspired the same post, part 2. Read Certain Friendships Don’t Last Forever Part 1 and Part 2. [...]

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By: Finally Woken

Finally Woken — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 11:11:33 +0000

Maureen: Looks like very complicated and mega drama to me. Sometimes a friendship is not meant to be, it should work both ways, both parties have to put effort and maintain honesty, and once the balance is tipped, when one works harder than the other, when one starts lying and being insincere, then it’s not a friendship anymore. Still hurt though, right?

By: Maureen

Maureen — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 12:25:53 +0000

Anita, I can relate to your post but on my case, I am the one who decided to cut loose all ties and move on. After a few months (6 months or so) she finally sent me a message on one of the social networking site asking why I am avoiding her and her entourage who used to be part of the ‘gang’. After a long and hard reeling in my brain, I decided not to give her more opportunity to use my words and twist it around even more in the future. Besides, she will never admit that one huge betrayal she did to me after over 5 years being her very very close friends and were trusted with her many secrets. Oh also, she too was having a complicated relationships with two guys one married, one single at the time and although I didn’t quite agree with the path she chosen (staying with the married man), I still kept my mouth shut, listened to her, being a supportive friend and didn’t bad mouthed her to others the way she did me and eventually reached my very own ears. Oh well…you are right certain friendships just wasn’t meant to last a lifetime.
.-= Maureen´s last blog ..Friendship, Love & Truth =-.

By: Finally Woken

Finally Woken — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 10:57:02 +0000

Yoanitya: in my case it’s the other way around, She’s the one who cut all the contact off and pretends she doesn’t know me. It’s weird, since we have gone through a lot…

By: yoanitya

yoanitya — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 09:05:28 +0000

you know what, I’ve actually been through those kind of moments where you pretend to not know the person you know inside out when she’s right there sitting next to you.

I’ve posted a similar post in my friendster blog about a year ago.. (yeah, I guess before owning your own blog domain, you must have a friendster blog first.. lol) well actually, the post wasn’t THAT similar… the big bad wolf did something bad DIRECTLY to me. and though it didn’t involved any married man, but still, it was something that could even make Amy Winehouse’s moral kick in. And it hurts.

Anyway,, being the classy snob I am, I wrote it on the internet. I didn’t mention names, off course. It was sort of like an I’M WARNING YOU letter. For her to stop what’s she’s doing.

Anyways, I was the one that was portrayed in a bad picture, thanks to that siluman rubah. And that made me furious because what she’s been telling people was total BS. but then I realized something. she was actually helping me separate my true friends from the ‘i hang out with you because every cool people hangs out with you’ friends. it’s indeed true that true friends don’t buy shit about you before checking it with you.

It has been more than a year since all that sinetrony drama, and you know what, she performed a vanishing act as well. she went missing, I mean, gone. because later on people heard about what really happened (from her old housemates), so she decided to be in the public less. I guess you get what you give away, and she can’t be missing because, well, no body misses her. and the ones that do, urmm well lets say,, they deserve each other.

and if ever she sends me a text saying sorry, I’d be too busy to reply too. because seriously, lagu lama. and I’m only typing about it now to avoid doing chores (my excuse was ‘working on thesis’) because our help is still on her mudik lebaran. hehe…

By: parvita

parvita — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 07:59:44 +0000

I am a reactive person, so if someone decided to avoid me, I will avoid them too. Actually, I was in her shoes, almost, and decided to shut my relationships with some of my friends just because of one incident. But then I remember the old saying, "Losing a friend is a big loss even though you gain 1000 new friends". Therefore, I decided to keep them because you never know when you need them (sound selfish, hmh), or, when they need me (my soft button). In the mean time, I just think about more important things and have fun with my other group of friends! parvitas last blog post..Fasting: Did God tell us to do More Harm than Benefit to our Body?

By: colson

colson — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 08:16:00 +0000

'if you were in my shoes, what would you do?'

Because of a trillion reasons I don't know what I would do in these circumstances. Though my wild guess is that
- though the friendship is history but
- we still can't ignore the fact we know each other and
- there has been their token of reconciliation ( these emails I mean) in the meantime
- the only inhibition left to block a non committal, casual greeting are
- feelings of mutual embarrassment (far more for them than for me probably) with this situation.

So, what would I do after this intercontinental flight? Would I have the nerve to ask after their wellbeing and their child/children?
I guess I should. I guess I wouldn't.