Comments on: Let's Get This Party Started

By: Lorraine

Lorraine — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 18:23:00 +0000

Happy anniversary! And have a fabulous party to remember only with your loved-ones & close relatives.

By: Jakartass

Jakartass — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 22:39:00 +0000

Making a marriage last, Anita, is a personal matter. I am who I am, not a great romantic unfortunately (?), but this is it until 'death us do part'.

This one has lasted for a long time, nigh on 20 years, because we both know we've screwed up previous relationships and now know to give each other space. I suppose it's respect for who we are rather than who we want the other to be.

My space is not My Space, the online network, but 'my' online network into which I pour my thoughts.

Such as this one.

By: Finally Woken

Finally Woken — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:41:00 +0000

I have to apologise for my stupidity of not checking my dashboard to see if there are comments stuck in spam.

So here is my response to all of you whose comments were stuck for days. Sorry folks.

@Arman: that's right, it's back to the couple. Maybe they're happy having it celebrated as many people as possible.

@Jakartass: oh please tell me tell me. You know you can be my mentor on how to keep the marriage lasting! Maybe a new book: Marriage Shock?

@Nsyahmal: Wow... I am so sorry to hear (read) that. But, on the other way around, you and your spouse know that you have passed this, and you both have survived, and if you could survive from this, you have put a strong foundation to be a couple. Welcome to my blog and thank you for leaving a great comment!

By: Finally Woken

Finally Woken — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 01:57:00 +0000

Rob, my Indian lecturer back in Sydney had his wedding attended probably by 10,000 guests – he had it in a football stadium, or at least that’s a rumour told by my ex-boss a.k.a his schoolmate.

When Stuart and I attended my friend’s wedding in Manado he couldn’t believe to see so many people (2,000 to be exact), it’s the biggest wedding he’s ever been to. I once attended a wedding in Jakarta where we were greeted by at least 100 pair of ushers, where we had to queue just to congratulate the happy couple and their parents, where the security was tighter than airports because lots of ministers and government officers were present, and where after 20 minutes queue and one second handshaking all 5,000 guests left for the other tent to enjoy the food, leaving the couple and their parents all alone. Yeah, very intimate!

By: nsyahmal

nsyahmal — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 23:39:00 +0000

I hope you had or will have the wedding you wanted, without any annoying interferences.

By: nsyahmal

nsyahmal — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 23:36:00 +0000

I stumbled on this blog from Tasa’s, and I love this post. Indonesians in the States are no less worse than Indonesians in Indo. They all care about pleasing other people, pride wise, than making things meaningful. My own wedding was a fiasco as it was overrun by hubby’s family and extended friends. I did not get the very small intimate wedding I had wanted and this made planning a reception later on all the more crazy – alas, we still have not had a proper reception. We had over 200 in our wedding, which was in a small house in the peak of summer. My in-laws assured it would be fine, but it wasn’t really. And now I don’t know how to have a proper reception without inviting the other hundred or so people who are upset at not being invited to the original fiasco. lol And it hurts that my wedding will be remembered as the crapshoot wedding by everyone, an event people inspire NOT to have. All because the groom’s family did not want to disappoint their hundred relatives and friends and would not settle for a very intimate affair and patiently wait for a more proper and organized reception later on. I guess I am still bitter lol

By: Rob Baiton

Rob Baiton — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 14:00:00 +0000

It is always really intimate to have a wedding reception with 6,000 of your parents closest friends, coleagues, past and present.

I reckon it is times like these that you find out that your parents have saved every single name card that they have ever received and now they are going to send each and every one of these associates an invitation.

But you are getting what you want at close to 100, so that is good for you.

I wrote a comment about this need to be bigger and better than the person before on someone else's blog that was looking at the economics of the thing.

But enjoy the belated reception and the anniversary. I trust it is a good one for you and your other half!

By: Finally Woken

Finally Woken — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 04:57:00 +0000

@Tree: lots of single girls there…

@Ecky: I’m sure it still fits. If it doesn’t, just turn up with bikini I don’t think anybody would mind…

@Katadia: wow, I hope you were fine at the end. After reading all of the above comments, I just realize how lucky I am, having it just the way I (we) want. I think the key is who’s paying for the wedding. If it’s our parents, then it’s going to be much more difficult to argue. Plus with so many extended family members who (suddenly) feel they’re your closest cousins/ants/uncles, it’s difficult not to invite them.

By: Katadia

Katadia — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 03:43:00 +0000

Anita…. I had two weddings in Jakarta in two days. One Javanese, one Minang, to make both sides for the family happy. I couldn’t stand up in the pelaminan of the Minang one, after the first five minutes because I almost fainted in exhaustion.

Like most Indonesians who still negotiates their way around the demands of parental and extended family’s expectations, I didn’t get the wedding I wanted. You’re lucky you are getting what you want All the best.

By: Ecky

Ecky — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 16:58:00 +0000

Hope the dress still fit or else I have to do strict diet, bugger