Hard to find someone who says sorry sincerely.

X-generation is ppl that don’t have self awareness, we have to whip em to make em work and understand. and in this case, it’s useless for you to wait them to say sorry to you, you may shout or scream to them and they still won’t say sorry to you.

Y-generation is ppl that we don’t need to whip em to make them understand, they have high self-awareness, and in this case these ppl easily realize that (s)he has made mistakes, therefore, like me, it’s easy to say sorry.

Z-generation is ppl in between X and Y… sometimes need to get whip sometimes not, they behave depends on their moods. And in this case, (s)he look into the situation whichever benefits the person/them.

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well, to be honest, some of my friends say that i’m a sportive type of person… i’m not scared to say that i was wrong (IF i was) and i try to ameliorate wrong things that i’ve done.

But, based on my experience… and let me elaborate my story based on the point you quote at your post… Pure ego, pride, and selfishness.
Ok, I struggled with pathological narcissism for most of my life. I was always comparing myself to others to make sure I was on top. And, yeah, it kept me from getting close to people. But not anymore.

I think we should know this ~~ Emotions reflect intentions.
Therefore, awareness of emotions leads to awareness of intentions.
Every discrepancy between a conscious intention and the emotions that accompany it,
points directly to a splintered aspect of the self that requires healing.

Now, how would you know the feeling of guilt for not saying sorry if you don’t have self-awareness?

Pride is defined as an exaggerated positive evaluation of oneself, often based on a devaluation of others. It results in a kind of attachment to oneself and aversion to others. THAT USUALLY TRANSFORM INTO a inferiority feelings, fears for attack create a shield, leading to isolation. BECOME DEFENSIVE…

Imagine a person such as previous had to say “i’m sorry” GAWD! they won’t say it! it’s a humiliation for them…

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PS: It’s not so hard to say “Sofhi (I’m sorry in arabic).

I think it is easy to say sorry bit hard for us to mean it. Ego and pride are a factor in some, perhaps most, cases. Yet, it really is about whether you are truly sorry.

Sorry is a little bit more than really good “make-up sex” between partners after an argument.

For me, I think the majority of us, if not all, have said sorry for the sake of saying sorry and not because we were truly sorry for what we have said or done.

Nice post as usual!

@Ivy: not as easy as it seems, dear. It takes a big heart to leave our ego and pride off of the table.

@Trisna: you mean because you're young, it's easier to apologise? Care to elaborate?

@Fajrin: yes exactly. We have the whole idea of our importance in the universe and thought by saying sorry we are going to loose our existence. Difficult to do

@Therry: exactly. We appreciate when people are willing to admit their mistakes, it makes them human. And we have to accept those, because we are human though. Simple concept, difficult to apply!