A lot of things happened since my last thread. Most of them are too taboo or too kinky to be revealed in this such public place so if you are still interested you might send me an email asking what had happened, and I might answer your questions. Perhaps you might find some answers in my Facebook account, though I can’t guarantee 100%…
Anyway, after being back in Indonesia, I have noticed a thing about Indonesians which I haven’t thought before. We are so modest we always apologise about everything, even though it is absolutely unnecessary. One day Alison and I were following a guy who gave us a tour around the coffee plantation in Magelang, and even though he could speak English very well, as well as French and Italian, he still apologised for his skill. He didn’t see that most of us in the group are too lazy to learn other languages, (the French and Italian groups’ English are even worse than anyone I know), the guide who promised to speak only in English so he didn’t have to repeat himself three times, finally ended up explaining things over and over again.
Roos from Bugil’s Group, despite managed to provide a fantastic bar in our party, still apologised to me when she came up and cheeks-kissed me. Despite calculated the amount of drink we would consummate correctly, as well as managed to get everything ready on time although there was a time miscommunication between us – all was done easily whilst she was officially in holiday and taking care of two kids – she still apologised. I told her that what she had done was fabulous and we couldn’t thank her enough.
My mother is like a walking catalog. She knows places to go or things to do in most of areas in Indonesia. If you mention a certain place like Bali, or Yogya, she is able to come up with a long list, from where to eat local food, souvenirs to buy, shops to go, and of course, places to see. She developed a itinerary for me and my auntie-in-law, like six places to go in one day (yes, six! Talking about options!), all are interesting. Yet she still apologised to me and said that next time she could do better. Me, I wouldn’t be able to pinpoint where Semeru Mountain is, let alone know that there is a colossal Ramayana ballet in Prambanan Temple (which, she has arranged and booked prior to our arrival. All we had to do was turn up). She was so fantastic she could be a travel agent – yet she still apologises for her capabilities.
As Asians, we are taught and trained to be modest. We are trained to never boast what we have, or what we have had done or achieved. Showing off is frowned upon. But sometimes we forget that we are allowed to take credit of what we have done. And accepting gratitudes from people is not wrong. And most of the times when we are praised by others, they really mean it.
So there is no need to apologise!
What do you think?
PS: I’m back from hiatus, by the way. Hello, everybody…