At that particular beautiful morning, I was sipping coffee and going through the newsfeed on my facebook. Luckily I didn’t spill my coffee after reading a friend’s and her husband’s statuses. They just celebrated their anniversary, and felt it was necessary to share it to the world.
I don’t mind all that, because overshare and over-expose whatever happens in everybody’s life seems to be ‘normal’ nowadays. I somehow know about what my friends are up to rather than where I could find my own mother today, simply by checking their statuses. I know that a friend has just cooked rendang for her dinner, that another’s son’s first tooth has just emerged, that another is having a bad day because her haircut turned out to be a nightmare, that another is off for a holiday (somewhere exotic) and forgets to pack her pink Prada bikinis, and another suffers from PMS and her menstruation period is due now, and so son.
But even for me, there is a limit between over-share and “over-the-edge” share. Taking picture of birthday/anniversary cards, diamonds, Louboutins, flowers, or cakes, to show it off to the world that our spouse really loves us and “here, look, I’ve got the biggest/best/most expensive present ever”, is one thing, but if I also have to read poems dedicated to each other that fill up the entire screen on my iphone – twice! – well, it’s rather annoying. I understand these friends are overjoyed they have finally reached a year or ten years of happy marriage, but if my husband decides to send a poem through the ‘free’ facebook rather than giving me a card with his own handwriting, I’ll let him sleep on the sofa. First, because whatever he is trying to express is meant for me and me only, second, for being cheap, and third, for being so lazy.
It’s not just the double, triple TMI (too much information) that bothers me. I really don’t understand if a couple – a married or live-in together couple – decides to communicate over facebook. I mean, don’t they actually talk at home? Don’t they phone or sending texts to each other? These people have the advantage of having no boundaries at all in between them, hell, they can talk to each other naked if they want to, yet they create a ‘wall’ between them to communicate.
Why do they feel it is necessary to talk to their spouses when they are actually right next to them?
It’s not oversharing, it’s airing their own dirty laundry.
Sometimes, one puts her or his status on, and their spouse will leave comment(s). Once, twice, especially when it’s funny, is alright. But then it becomes a conversation between them two, which always makes me want to scream in their ears: Dude, pick up the phone and call your wife!
Brandon Griggs lists down 12 most annoying facebookers, and I actually can tolerate almost all – except the TMIer. Well, I can tolerate some TMIer, but not those who turn facebook wall into a chatting arena between them and their spouses (that’s the message function is for), or those who think it is important to show how much love s/he has with her/his spouse. Yes, we understand you’re in love. We’re happy for you, really. But if you start talking dirty and seem to ready to tear each other’s clothes off in facebook, or schedule when you’re going to have sex, we’d rather not know about it.